What’s Your Story?

    As human beings we are great storytellers. Besides opposable thumbs, that may be the most distinguishing mark of our species. Our stories can be inspiring and they can be damaging. The key is to become aware of our stories and choose the ones that flow from our deeper essence.

    Here’s a simple exercise to become aware of how you’re telling stories. When you find yourself upset, can you recognize the story that you are telling at that moment?

    To do that, you’ll need to be able to step back and observe yourself from as neutral a perspective as you can access at the moment. You might ask yourself some questions:

    Am I blaming someone or something for what is happening?

    What is my intention in this situation?

    What words are running through my head?

    How do I feel emotionally?

    What is happening in my body?

    With those questions, you start to access your story at that moment, the way that you are interpreting what is happening. You also begin to take responsibility for how you are responding. Instead of blaming circumstances or other people, you begin to see what you are doing internally that is shaping the experience you are having.

    While you cannot always control what is happening, you can adjust your response to whatever happens. You can choose to tell a different story about it. You can tell a story that expresses your desire for peace, love, and inspiration instead of a story that escalates upset and blame.

    Maybe most importantly, you can learn to quiet your storytelling, so you can listen and feel for something deeper, more abiding, and authentic. When you are able to do that, your storytelling will reflect a whole different dimension.

    The best stories emerge from silence. . .


    Kevin Schoeninger

    P.S. “The Life You Are Meant to Live” is a program to empower you in writing your authentic story

      4 Responses to “What’s Your Story?”

      1. The One and Only You

        Sometimes we tell stories to allow us to be successful in the moment. We often forget that we succeed not because you’re allowed to, but because you decide to. You will prosper not because of the hand you’ve been dealt, but because of what you do with it.

        Though others may have impressive wealth and other advantages going for them, remember this. You have you going for you.

        You have a solid, authentic purpose, and the determination to fulfill that purpose. You have a unique perspective, and the ability to leverage that perspective into real, lasting value. Whether circumstances favor you or not, your commitment and your actions can always be working in your favor.

        Put all your energy into what you can do, into the positive steps you can take, and deliver yourself to wherever you wish to be.

      2. L.kalaivanan says:

        Hi Kevin,

        This posting delves deep into human psyche. Your every posting is a treasure. Mainly it is short and easily readable & understandable.The depth of your postings resemble the great spritual teacher, J.krishnamurti’s teachings. Excellent service. Thanks.

      3. Hi Michael,
        Very nice empowering statement.
        Thank you,

      4. Hi L.,
        Thanks for your positive feedback.

        I, too, greatly enjoy the work of J. Krishnamurti.


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