Three Steps To Overcoming Limiting Beliefs

    Yesterday we talked about identifying a dominant limiting belief that comes up and creates resistance when you try to move forward, make a change in your life, or grow something new. Today we’ll talk about three steps to move through your limiting belief.

    Say you want to learn a new skill and you’ve had some bad experiences in that field of learning. You may have been told that you are lousy at it or that you’ll “never learn.” You may have tried repeatedly without success and reinforced your belief that you can’t do it. What’s going to be different this time around?

    The first thing is to be very specific about the details of what you’ve done in the past and see what worked and what didn’t. See how your belief is justified only for that specific way you went about it. Recognize and accept exactly what you did and the results that happened. Be detailed and factual with yourself.

    Second, don’t take your past actions personally. Separate who you are and what you are capable of from the specific actions and results of your prior experiences. Entertain the possibility that with a new approach you can have new and better results.

    Finally, make a new plan based on small steps that overcome the specific things that held you back last time.

    For example, if you tried losing weight by having a Spartan diet of broccoli and tuna everyday and taking Spinning classes that about killed you and failed, try a new approach. You could eat small portions of a variety of foods that you enjoy, drink more water to fill you up, and take daily hikes in nature, with a friend, or with your dog to burn off calories.

    Often, after perceived failure, we’ll just hole up in our shells and never venture toward that same goal again. Obviously, that will only take you farther and farther from what you desire. Instead determine to do things differently, one small step at a time.

    I find that if the steps are small and enjoyable they seem easy to do and they get done. This builds momentum and confidence for bigger steps. Do something, anything, everyday to move toward your goal.

    After you’ve analyzed your past attempts, instead of focusing on what didn’t work or what can’t happen, focus on discovering and doing what does work best for you.

    Enjoy your practice,

    Kevin Schoeninger

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