Three Keys to Emotional Freedom

    In our last post, we talked about how we lose contact with our Emotional Intelligence through avoidance, distraction, and addiction. When these are chronic habits, we separate from the guiding wisdom in our emotions, from our deepest selves, and from feeling connected to the flow of Life.


    When we’re disconnected from our emotional being we become victims of emotional cycles that seem to “happen to us.” This perpetuates more fear of emotion and deepens the repressive cycle. As a result, we feel more reactive and less and less inspired, purposeful, and alive.

    If you are feeling stuck in a rut or not living your full potential, it’s essential to connect with your emotional wisdom. The following three keys can guide you:

    1. The only way out of an emotional rut is through it.
    Shift your perspective from fear of your emotions to seeing your emotions as a guiding light. Emotions arise with information you need about your life and the energy to take action on that information. Begin by paying attention to how you feel, in your body, right now. If you’re not accustomed to checking in like this, you might not feel much at all or it may feel uncomfortable. Stay with it. Stay present with whatever feeling or lack of feeling is there. If you don’t pay attention to what your emotions are trying to tell you, they’ll get stuck and keep cycling through you.

    2. Consciousness of what you feel shifts your relationship to it. When feelings arise, instead of immediately trying to do something about them, take time to witness, listen, and feel. The act of consciousness brings new neural connections into your habitual emotional patterns which enables them to shift. Conscious awareness releases you from being “gripped by” your emotions and having them “take you over.” Awareness creates freedom and space within and around emotions.

    3. Emotions come and go. This is reassuring when emotions run strongly or cycle repetitively through you. Emotions arise with a purpose and recede as you have gathered the message they have for you and used their energy appropriately. Shine the light of awareness on your emotions, listen to what they have to tell you, and allow them to move through you.

    In our upcoming posts, we’ll talk about the specific messages that each emotion carries.

    Until next time,
    Stay tuned to your feelings,

    Kevin Schoeninger

      2 Responses to “Three Keys to Emotional Freedom”

      1. Pinay says:

        I believe in your teachings regarding emotions. They are great source of wisdom. Please include something about emotional freedon technique, some sort of therapeutic intervention and mind-emotion-body work. God bless

      2. This is such a fundamental piece of information for someone suffering with an emotional block. I wish to goodness my doctor/psychiatrist had been able to say this kind of thing to me when I approached them about 8 years ago to ask for advice on how to heal (I had struggled with OCD, panic attacks, phobias and depression for over 20 years).

        I took a look at how I dealt with my emotions and reversed the pattern – and it follows the 3 points you’ve made above.

        We suffer emotional illness because we have come to believe the opposite of the 3 points you’ve made in your post – and the simplicity and ease with which you’ve written it can slip right on by a reader’s attention if they don’t stop and REALLY study what you’ve just said there.

        Took me over 20 years of suffering and about 5 years altogether to reverse my internal pattern and remove some serious emotional disorders which I was about to be put on heavy doses of medication for. Not a single qualified professional I ever spoke to ever mentioned the 3 points above.

        I’m healed now thanks to this approach which I had to learn from scratch myself – to be honest it just really annoys me we aren’t taught this in childhood.

        I try to pass the same information on to other sufferers whenever I can to reassure them they can heal.

        Regards – Carl

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