Do You Have This In Your Body?

    75% of people in the United States say that they experience this in a way that affects the quality of their life. Medical researchers say that this is a major factor in up to 95% of all doctor visits. At the same time, only 10% of parents think that this factor in themselves negatively affects their kids. While the overwhelming majority of those same kids say that it does affect them.

    What is it?

    Stress.

    While most of us acknowledge that stress affects us, we may not know how deeply and widespread these effects run. Maybe we define stress too narrowly. We may think of it as just “having too much to do in too little time.” That is certainly part of it. Yet consider this possibility:

    Every unresolved experience in your life gets stored in your body as tension. For example, if you have an argument and walk away in the midst of it saying you “don’t want to talk about it anymore,” that stress stays with you until you go back and resolve it. It remains stored in your body beneath your conscious awareness.

    Anything that you “hold onto” rather than working through, get stored in your body as tension. This includes blaming others or circumstances for what is wrong in your life. It includes any negative self-judgments about who you are and what possibilities you have. It includes sadness, fear, guilt, shame, and anger. If you hang onto any of these mental-emotional patterns they get stored as tension in your body.

    What you think you are “ignoring” or “avoiding” gets shoved inside, into your cells and tissues, eventually becoming the 95% of medical symptoms that are stress-related.

    So what is the positive message in all this?

    Become as aware as you can of all your feelings. Don’t shove them aside thinking that you’ve got more important things to attend to. Learn what your feelings are telling you about what you are holding onto and what actions you need to take right now to move forward.

    Become aware of stress, tension, and conflict arising with others and work it through as consciously as you can in the present moment. Work things out, instead of letting them linger and fester. Communicate even when it feels hard to do. Handle conflict honestly and directly, as soon as possible.

    Make present-moment awareness, conscious communication, and timely appropriate action your mode of operation, so that you minimize the accumulation of stress.

    At the same time, understand that you won’t always do this perfectly or handle things well. Other people won’t always cooperate with you or be as ready to communicate and resolve things as you are. So make it a habit to practice a tension-release method, such as meditation, on a daily basis.

    Learn to let go on your end, even when others aren’t able to. Practice relaxing your body, calming your emotions, and quieting your mind at some point every day. If you combine this with your present-moment tension-resolution strategy, you’ll be well on your way to handling the inevitable stresses of a busy life.

    Enjoy your practice!

    Kevin

    P.S. Click here to learn more about the power of meditation to relieve stress. Check out Secrets of Meditation

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