Archive for December 24th, 2010

Three Keys to Emotional Freedom

In our last post, we talked about how we lose contact with our Emotional Intelligence through avoidance, distraction, and addiction. When these are chronic habits, we separate from the guiding wisdom in our emotions, from our deepest selves, and from feeling connected to the flow of Life.


When we’re disconnected from our emotional being we become victims of emotional cycles that seem to “happen to us.” This perpetuates more fear of emotion and deepens the repressive cycle. As a result, we feel more reactive and less and less inspired, purposeful, and alive.

If you are feeling stuck in a rut or not living your full potential, it’s essential to connect with your emotional wisdom. The following three keys can guide you:

1. The only way out of an emotional rut is through it.
Shift your perspective from fear of your emotions to seeing your emotions as a guiding light. Emotions arise with information you need about your life and the energy to take action on that information. Begin by paying attention to how you feel, in your body, right now. If you’re not accustomed to checking in like this, you might not feel much at all or it may feel uncomfortable. Stay with it. Stay present with whatever feeling or lack of feeling is there. If you don’t pay attention to what your emotions are trying to tell you, they’ll get stuck and keep cycling through you.

2. Consciousness of what you feel shifts your relationship to it. When feelings arise, instead of immediately trying to do something about them, take time to witness, listen, and feel. The act of consciousness brings new neural connections into your habitual emotional patterns which enables them to shift. Conscious awareness releases you from being “gripped by” your emotions and having them “take you over.” Awareness creates freedom and space within and around emotions.

3. Emotions come and go. This is reassuring when emotions run strongly or cycle repetitively through you. Emotions arise with a purpose and recede as you have gathered the message they have for you and used their energy appropriately. Shine the light of awareness on your emotions, listen to what they have to tell you, and allow them to move through you.

In our upcoming posts, we’ll talk about the specific messages that each emotion carries.

Until next time,
Stay tuned to your feelings,

Kevin Schoeninger

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