Archive for December, 2010

Learn Your Emotional Signals for Authentic Guidance

Imagine yourself as a bio-energetic information system. As supervisor of this system, your task is to manage the smooth flow of information and energy through you. Your emotions are key signals that help you manage the flow of your life and keep you in balance on your path.


We’ve talked about approaching your emotions with an attitude of curiosity and an openness to learn what they have to tell you. If you’re not accustomed to tuning into your emotions, you may not know how to read what your emotions are saying. Like anything of value, it takes time and practice to gain the skills of emotional discernment.

Here’s a summary of four primary emotions we’ve discussed, along with their felt quality, and questions you can ask to discern why they are arising at this moment. These questions are inspired by Karla McLaren’s brilliant book “The Language of Emotions“:

1. Anger: Strong and firm outward flowing energy that supports your personal boundaries and the boundaries of others whom you care for. When you feel angry ask yourself: “What needs to be protected or restored?”

2. Sadness: Soft, downward flowing energy that enables you to let go of what no longer serves you so that new energy and possibilities can emerge. When you feel sad ask yourself: “What needs to be released so I can flow forward?”

3. Passion: Rising expansive energy that reaches outward to form connections and create new possibilities. When you feel passion, ask yourself: “What do I want to experience, share, grow, or create?”

4. Fear: Sensitive intuitive energy within and around your personal space. When you feel afraid, ask yourself: “What action needs to be taken right now?”

As you prepare to enter the New Year, it’s an auspicious time to make a commitment to tune into your emotional signals to help you navigate your authentic path.

Many blessings on your journey,

Kevin Schoeninger

P.S. If you’re interested in a program to assist you in discovering your purpose and living your dreams, check out “The Life You Are Meant to Live Program”

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The Positive Purpose of Fear

We’ve been told that “Fear is what holds us back” and that “The only thing to fear is fear itself.” If we can just overcome our fears, we’ll be able to live full-out and realize our hopes and dreams. But, what if this perennial wisdom regarding fear is missing something? What if fear in its essential form is one of our wise guides?


In her book, The Language of Emotions, author Karla McLaren tells us that emotions have three forms–unconscious reactive expression, a repressed cycling state, and a healthy free-flowing state. It may be that we are only familiar with the first two forms of fear. The reactive expression that makes us cower and the repressed state which is a constant low-level anxiety cycling just underneath our awareness.

Fear in its healthy free-flowing form is something altogether different. McLaren tells us that fear is your intuitive awareness of what is really going on inside you and around you. It informs you of what actions you need to take right here and now. If you pick up on the signals of fear as it arises and learn to discern what it is trying to tell you, it holds a key to wisely navigating your authentic path.

In previous posts, we’ve discussed the idea that each of us lives within a space that we define as our own personal space. This is a spherical space about an arm’s length around our body in all directions. Think of fear as a sixth sense that reaches out through your personal space to pick up signals about what is happening inside you and in your environment.

Fear can pick up what is happening in your own body. It can pick up the actions and intentions of the people around you and it can sense the conditions in the environment. With that information you can choose wise actions.

To learn to use fear as a wise guide, try this simple practice:

1. When you feel fear arising take a quiet, private moment to center into the feeling. Tune into your feeling of fear, locate where it resides in your body, and approach it with curiosity to learn what it has to tell you.

2. Take a deep in-breath as if you are filling your whole body with your breath. As you exhale, imagine and feel that your breath fills the sphere of your personal space about an arm’s width around your entire body. Sense that
space around you and pick up on the subtle signals that you can perceive in it. For example, you might be drawn to look at something or someone, or you might feel the urge to move toward or away from something.

3. Stay centered in your personal space and ask your fear the question: “What action needs to be taken right now?” Don’t rush to fill in an answer. Instead, keep the question open. Listen and feel inside. See what your intuition
presents to you. You may have an inspiration to take a specific action.

As with all your feelings, it may take time to attune to and differentiate their signals. Be patient with yourself. The simple action of tuning into your inner senses is valuable in itself. You’ll grow your ability to sense inner guidance from fear and all your emotions through mindful practice over time. You’ll also learn to discern the quality of signals that are accurate guidance from interpretations that are false reads.

If you feel overwhelmed or paralyzed by your feelings to the point where you are unable to consciously process them yourself, seek the assistance of a counseling professional who is trained to work with intense emotions.

Until next time,
Stay tuned to your feelings,

Kevin Schoeninger

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The Positive Purpose of Passion

Passion has a mixed reputation in human consciousness. On the one hand, it’s a powerful creative force. On the other hand, it feels like a threat to the “normal order” of our lives. We worship passion and shy from it. We long to feel passion, yet we fear that it will break down the lines of propriety.


Many of us associate passion with sexuality, though it is much broader than that. For the ancient Greeks, it was “eros,” an intense desire for something. For Plato, this was sublimated into the quest for ideal beauty in the world of
pure Form. Eros in that sense is loving what is beautiful.

Passion also implies an intense commitment to someone or something. In this way, passion acquires purpose. Through passion we are steadfast in pursuit of an important intention, aim, or goal. That intention could be loving another,
creating a work of art, building a business, or any other soul-inspired pursuit.

When we are passionate, we “go the distance” and see things through to the end. Passion inspires action, focuses attention, and generates resolve. It becomes a guiding force in our life–a whisper or a trumpet from the Divine.

I suggest that what I would call “authentic passion” comes from your Core. It is an expression of the One Life that we all share “channeling” through you. You are here exactly the way you are to express specific things for all of us. You have a gift to share that benefits everyone. Find your passion and you find this gift. You’ll know your authentic passion by its quality of service to others.

Some passions are gifts just for a moment, others are longer-term pursuits. It may be offering a hand, or an ear, or a smile to your children, a friend, a co-worker, a family member, or a stranger on the street. It may be the gift of your presence wherever you are. It may be a creative project or something that you want to grow in your life or in the world. Grow this first in yourself, then share it with others, so that we all grow.

As we come to the New Year, take some extra time to reflect on what you want to create in your life. Allow yourself to become still and quiet. Feel what is happening inside. Look around you with fresh eyes and notice what captures
your attention. It could be a small “flirt” in the corner of your eye. It could be a subtle feeling of “wanting more.” It might not seem like much. Follow it and see where it leads.

Your passion may speak first in a still, small voice before it grows to its full potential. Cultivate listening and feeling for the subtle tone of your passion underneath the surface. Then, give it daily attention so it can blossom.

Let this New Year be the time when you live from the passion of your soul.


Kevin Schoeninger

P.S. If you’re interested in a program designed to help you discover your purpose and live your dream, check out The Life You Are Meant to Live Program

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